8/11/2024 0 Comments Ep. 3 - Whose Dream Is It Anyways?Welcome Back To The Conversation. Randomly "Boulevard of Broken Dreams" by Green Day is playing in my head at this moment. When you live in America, you hear the term "The American Dream" a zillion times throughout your life. When you're a kid in America, adults will constantly say you can be whatever you want to be and there is a big world waiting for you.
Then one day you grow up and most days it feels like people blew smoke up your ass. Cause in reality, you can have the big dreams but without supportive people in your life and protection from predators, you'll have to change your big plans. Yet, you'll take heart at the challenge and dig your heels into your big dreams. As you mature, you'll believe that challenges are par for the course. However, what happens if you have more than one dream? What happens when you are pressured to sacrifice a dream just because someone else wants power or control of your free will? What happens when people conspire to make you feel unworthy of your dreams? What part of the game is that? When we are young, we are told the American dream is the dream of the Founding Fathers of this great country. We are told The American Dream is the dream of upward mobility, financial freedom, taxation with representation, a family of your own and a home of your own with a white picket fence. But what if you want a beach house or a condo inside a highrise building? What if you dreamt of being a homemaker and an entrepreneur? What if you wanted to travel 1/3 of the year and then settle at home to enjoy local activities? My point is, "Whose Dream Is The So-Called American Dream Anyways?'. People are emotional creatures and emotions change like the tides of the ocean. You may imagine your life would go one way earlier in life. Then one day you meet the real reason of why you were drawn to certain interests all your life. As a kid, I used to love watching comedy movies. I also loved watching standup comedy specials on NBC. As HBO and Showtime came along airing standup specials, I got into those shows. Then Comedy Central came along and now it is Netflix airing the latest comedy specials. When I was a kid, I wanted to be an obstetrician like Dr. Huxtable on The Cosby Show. Then I got to high school, cut my first frog in biology class and realized "nah" I don't really want to deal with blood or organs as an occupation. I was on the honor roll for my entire grade school and high school "career" with teachers for parents. When your mom and dad are teachers, there becomes extra pressure to choose a career that will make them proud and look good to their co-workers. My mom had 2 master's degrees so I figured becoming Dr. So-and-so would be a good path. I chose Psychology cause I enjoyed people watching since I was a little girl and I wanted insight on how to deal with people. I took Psychology classes in high school and entered college with it as my major. Fun fact nobody knows about me - I always made As in my English classes and I got published in an anthology for my poems at 16, yet I almost was passed over getting selected into the college of my choice due to a weak admission essay. It was the first time in my life where I was told and shown that I don't express my feelings well. My university bluntly told me, they could've done without my essay and selected me based off the strength of my grades and academic resume. This lead me on a quest to express myself more. I got used to keeping my feelings to myself cause all we ever did in my house growing up was yell at each other to get our points across. If someone was more passionate about their point than you, good luck on finishing your sentence! Finding ways to express myself better lead me to feverishly creating poetry and attending poetry slams to perform it. This led to songwriting and within 2 weeks of college, I dropped my Psychology major and switched to Broadcast Journalism. I still feel like it was one of the best decisions I made at that time in my life. It gave me a distinct path to pursue and try things I always thought was cool. I began writing for the school newspaper, The Daily Illini. I began DJing my own radio show. I began taking film classes and learning auteur theory. I began taking photography classes and shooting music videos! The kid in me was the happiest person on Earth! My parents were not so happy. They only cared about me having a job I had to report to daily and clock-in. Happiness was nowhere in that equation. I did what I could in that lifestyle for as long as I could then depression ended all that. Then I became a robot - just going through the motions. Then comedy came calling and I latched on to it with everything I had. It changed my life for the better. So much better my life flew by! Time flies when you're having fun. When you're a woman who always wanted your own happy family, your biological starts ticking. You turn the volume down a bit and start analyzing the fun you're having. If you have the wrong people around you, they will discourage you. People have attempted to discourage me from every dream I had. I had to become comfortable with my dreams not mirroring anyone else's dreams. I had to become confident that I was worthy of even having my own dreams. Building this confidence has taken DECADES ya'll. So after doing the work, my takeaway for you guys to stay sane in this crazy world is to remember the television show "Who's Line Is It Anyway". Some of you may remember the show, some may not. It starred Drew Carey and Wayne Brady and it was a series of improv games they performed live. The goal of the games were to keep the scenes going and always have something cohesive or comical to say before the scene was called to end. When it comes to your dreams, sometimes you got to make it up! No one can envision the life you want to live in the way you can. You know your likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, guilty pleasures and all the intricate ingredients that can cook up a delicious dream. You have to know you were put on this planet for the purpose of discovering your dreams and pursuing them nearly to the point of reckless abandonment. None of us make it out of this life alive! Whatever dream you have, you owe it to yourself to at least try for it. You owe it to yourself to feel worthy of your dreams. The world is crazy and if you let it, it will drag you to crazy town with it. If you don't protect your dreams, the world will have you chasing everything but the stuff YOU WANT. The day you decide chasing everything but what you truly want in life is UNACCEPTABLE will become the first day you'll truly feel free as a human being. Don't let people bull-dooze you for their approval. Jesus already died for you and me while we were busy being selfish pricks and clueless wanderers. If Jesus already approves you and me and deems us worthy to live life more abundantly and half of us don't even think he is real, then what do we look like stressing ourselves out over fake love and oppressive people? We look like foolish people when we self-sacrifice for approval. Give yourself a break! You are worthy. You always have been whether you knew it or believed it. You are so worthy that thousands of years before you got here, a man made the ultimate sacrifice so you would never have to be a slave to anyone's standards. Breathe easy and if people keep disrespecting your boundaries, tell them to fuck off...in Christian language, that’s called rebuking them and it's totally OK! Smile :) -Love, Your Favorite Behavioral Analyst Comedian and Happiness Cheerleader AaronaTheVirgo To see MORE of my comedy, musical or other content - Subscribe to My YouTube Channel @aaronacreates If you like this blog, subscribe to it and check out my eStore - aaronathevirgoshop.etsy.com
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